I had the opportunity to fly out to Utah/Idaho this weekend to see a good friend, Ann Collier, get married.
It was especially meaningful because they are both in their 30s and have waited a long time for this occasion. Well, at least waited a long time separately since they met at the end of last year.
Not anything against young brides, but there was a certain deepness to the experience knowing that this was more than a pretty dress, a ring, and a fairy tale experience. Some of the other brides at the temple on the same day looked like they were 16 years old! Hopefully, they were at least 18 years old. It was a little odd that a lot of them were wearing white flip flops under their formal gowns. I guess that added to the feeling that some thought this was a fun activity for a Saturday and not an eternal relationship kind of thing. Oh, am I being rude? Perhaps. Shame on me. I need to be less judgemental.
(P.S. Patti made a comment on this blog and it reminded me that I hadn't put all my feelings in the post. If my friend Ann had been wearing flip flops under her dress I think I would have felt differently, but when everything about the young ones seemed flakey...the flip flops just seemed to add to that occasion. So, here I go adding more and probably digging myself into an unintended pit when my feelings aren't really that strong on this topic. Ha. I guess it give me insight though - some people are reading this blog) (-:
Really, I didn't feel like I was judging them at this point in life. It's more of a feeling of "wow, I'm so glad that I didn't get married at that age." Now, it's taken me a little too long to get to the marriage point, but I'm not sure how well it would have worked out for me if I had made that commitment so young. I just barely figured myself out in my 30s. Plus, I was a really late bloomer in the social relationship skills department.
It all comes down to this - to each his own.
And on that note, here are Ann and Mike on their special occasion. I think the pictures tell all - beautiful bride, handsome groom, wonderful temple and grounds, and couple in love.
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2 comments:
I really appreciate your comment on the young brides wearing flip-flops. I have always hated that tradition (if you can even call it that) and I really liked your point of view!! It's so much more than just a Saturday fun activity, and I feel sometimes we aren't really teaching the young women that one little concept.
Hey...wait a minute. I wore white flip flops under my dress...and I got married at 31! I just didn't want to spend the time looking through all the stores to find the right shoe - flip flop were WAY EASY and in no way affected how I felt about the day or the magnitude of what I have chosen to do (marriage and flip flop wise)
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