If I'm "your person" and I don't want to be

We all have a person. Or multiple people I hope. It might not be the same person every day and that person might not necessarily be our best friend. Calling any one of my people my best friend wouldn't feel right because that role seems to rotate around depending upon proximity, life challenges and emotional timing.

At work many of us have a work person. The work person is the natural default for lunch, idea sharing and gripes. Sometimes it's this person that helps me get through the day or even stay at the same job a little longer. Somehow if everyone has a person there is a synergy with the teams and it makes the entire environment a little better. Our person must be a type of security blanket of sorts which allows us to feel free to be comfortable with all.

Ahh, but then enters the person that decides they want you to be their person and you already have a person. What are the signs?

• Seeking person asks non-seeking person to lunch or dinner (or wherever) on a regular basis and non-seeking person seems to always have a meeting, a conference call, needs to go to the copier, or starts eating lunch around 10:30 a.m. to avoid all possibilities of a relationship.
• When seeking person walks into an office space, non-seeking person suddenly becomes very focused on the computer screen or on the urgent fake phone call they had to make.
• Seeking person engages non-seeking person in private conversation in a room full of people when the non-seeking person is obviously participating in the group conversation and seems restless the minute seeking person starts talking.
• Non-seeking person suddenly has eye glazing attacks right when seeking person addresses them about a topic.
• Non-seeking person starts walking different routes when seeking person is identified within close proximity.
• Suddenly entire groups of non-seeking persons seems to notice when seeking persons are seeking and all start to exhibit extreme actions of above stated behaviors.

Does this deserve a blog entry? Probably not, but I was feeling like I was in a non-seeking person hostage situation the other day and this was the only way to be released of the feeling.

May I find better ways to cope with these dilemmas going forward and hopefully someone will share with me a better way. Perhaps I can find a seeker for a seeker and create a win-win situation.

P.S. I'm not talking about romantic relationships here though some of these behaviors most definitely apply. For me this primarily happens at work, but I'm sure others have this in different settings.

P.S.S. I re-type old journals and am horrified that I was perhaps a seeker person to a few people that were non-seekers. I'm a little embarrassed about those moments, but I blush a little and keep moving forward. Perhaps someone else has written about me on another blog. It is a possibility and I will live with it.