Have you noticed that when someone gets married everyone talks about being a princess?
You know, like these kinds of comments:
"Splurge, it is your day to be a princess."
"You deserve it, you are a princess."
"You are a princess and should be able to have whatever you've dreamed of having on your special day."
For some reason, I always wince at these comments. I didn't know why until recently. But, think I figured it out.
I am not a princess. I never have been and never want to be.
Why?
Well, here's my opinion. And, it is only MY opinion because you may have a completely different take and that is fine with me.
Perhaps it is media (tv, movies) and books, but I look at the role of a princess much different than the role that I've played in life and plan to play in the future.
A princess (again, my opinion) may be beautiful, kind and gracious, but at the same time seems to be dependent upon those around her to make decisions, provide material possessions, set up relationships, respond to her every need, etc. The princess never seems to be in charge or standing on her own two feet, at least not necessarily in positive ways.
See, my opinion may be a bit based upon the fairy tale princess persona.
But, even so, that isn't what I am or who I want to be.
Instead, I think it would be better to be queen. A queen can be beautiful, gracious, kind and good like a princess. But, a queen knows who she is and makes decisions. A queen has responsibilities and is responsible for consequences. A queen seems more solid as a person. A queen must be equally powerful in the presence of her spouse as she is on her own in matters of judgement, choice, and accountability.
There have to be both in the world.
I want to be queen.
