Ok, my energy has been sucked from me this week. Too many meetings. I've had my evenings to myself and that is a good thing because I have to realize all of my thoughts somewhere and it's not out through my mouth and so it's coming out on the blog.
Anyway, every few months I re-read my personality profile. It reminds me of my strengths and of my weaknesses and what I need to work on in some areas.
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I did this re-read last night and found a page that talks about how to deal with INTJs. Fuh-ney, or not. My type is rare and it sounds like I have to constantly make sure I'm not rude.
The list is at http://fuzzy.snakeden.org/intj/ , but thought I'd copy/paste it below because it is kind of funny .... or sad depending on how you look at it. It is strangely accurate in some ways and a little off in other.
Here they are and if you go to the link you can find out your own things to know.
1 - Be willing to back up your statements with facts - or at least some pretty sound reasoning.
Don't expect them to respect you or your viewpoints just because you say so. INTJ respect must be earned.
2 - Be willing to concede when you are wrong. The average INTJ respects the truth over being "right". Withdraw your erroneous comment and admit your mistake and they will see you as a very reasonable person. Stick to erroneous comments and they will think you are an irrational idiot and treat everything you say as being questionable.
3 - Try not to be repetitive. It annoys them.
4 - Do not feed them a line of bull.
5 - Expect debate. INTJs like to tear ideas apart and prove their worthiness. They will even argue a point they don't actually support for the sake of argument.
6 - Do not mistake the strength of your conviction with the strength of your argument. INTJs do not need to believe in a position to argue it or argue it well. Therefore, it will take more than fervor to sway them.
7 - Do not be surprised at sarcasm.
8 - Remember that INTJs believe in workable solutions. They are extremely open-minded to possibilities, but they will quickly discard any idea that is unfeasible. INTJ open-mindedness means that they are willing to have a go at an idea by trying to pull it apart. This horrifies people who expect oohs and ahhs and reverence. The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea is to ignore it, because that means it's not even interesting enough to deconstruct. This also means that they will not just accept any viewpoint that is presented to them. The bottom line is "Does it work?" - end discussion.
9 - Do not expect INTJs to actually care about how you view them. They already know that they are arrogant with a morbid sense of humor. Telling them the obvious accomplishes nothing.
3 comments:
ha! This is kind of you but the way it is written makes it sound like a mean person which you are not. But you don't mess with wishy washyness, you like everything to be straight forward or move on! Love it. I might have to go see what I am.
About a year or more ago a good friend of mine got me to take the Meyers Briggs test with him. For a platonic male friend to suggest this could help our friendship was shocking. (For a guy period to suggest it is shocking.) Turns out he knew full well that he is an INTJ, and he was trying to get me to see things differently.
I learned a lot though. Starting with INTJ's can frequently be found in relationships with my type (which I conveniently just blanked out on). When I looked around I realized that my closest friends are all INTJ!
For what it's worth, I have never thought you come off as being rude (but according to #9 this doesn't make a difference to you. . .hah)
P.S. Interesting list. It sounds like you have great management qualities, which must be why you've been through the ringer with meetings this week.
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