Showing posts with label strengths. Show all posts
Showing posts with label strengths. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Infrastructure and Lipstick

Oops! - This post was written over a month ago and was left in draft mode.
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OK, work with me here. I took one of my little walks this morning and amongst all kinds of gratitude for life, the great outdoors, fall beauty and faith filled feelings, I had this thought.

Look at the tree without leaves. Look at the design. The strength of the trunk. The lesser strength of the main branches, limbs and sub-limbs. The very well positioned tiny little twigs that extend past those.


This is the infrastructure, the foundation, the firmly rooted (literally) system that makes up what we call a tree.  It works against gravity to push up toward the sky - day in and day out, week after week, year after year. I don't know what percentage of seeds make it into trees. But, I do know that I live in a forest along with everyone else along the East Coast.

I used to think that these parts of the tree were ugly. Brown, gray, camouflage, white - always fairly basic.

Until recently, when I've taken to looking at the bare trees just as much as the leaves.

The leaves come and ...they go. Every year. They start green and move into beautiful assortments of color throughout the year.

They are the lipstick. Multiple colors. All kinds of brands and quality levels. Easily wiped off.


But, we often look at the lipstick level of our surroundings - people, homes, things - and miss what really makes them strong, firm, and deeply rooted. Forgetting that it is the day by day, week by week, year by year efforts that make us to the core and with all the necessary appendages.


And, yet, as I say this I am partially wrong. The tree needs the leaves and the leaves need the trees. The way the infrastructure of the tree is set up best displays the quality of the leaves. The leaves add a "cloak of loveliness" to the strong and unbending trunk.


Just some fall thoughts...

Sunday, July 4, 2010

Like a Stone Wall


From what I can surmise, Virginia is one large piece of hollowed ground. The bloody civil war that brought about great change in this country was fought in "all the land round about" and luckily, many of the battlegrounds are preserved as space not to be overcome by housing developments, shopping malls and other consumerism minutia.

I decided to once again visit the spot of the Battle of Bull Run on this July 4th. It is actually most famous for Thomas Jonathan "Stonewall" Jackson, a confederate general who was known for being one of the most gifted tactical commanders in United States history. You can find that on wikipedia today. General Robert E. Lee would agree. They were close friends and relied on each other in battle.


Though "a confederate," he was a smart, dedicated man that held strong to his values. If you read about his life, he excelled at whatever he put his mind to - education, religion, war, teaching, etc. He had slaves, but most of them came to him asking he take them in and he treated them well. It sounded like he wasn't so sure about slavery, but that somehow it was God's will. He spent much of his religious endeavors preaching to historically black congregations and helping them "see the light" despite their lot in life.


Which leads me to...


As a teenager I was indoctrinated (for lack of a better word) in the North (Michigan) in the causes/impacts of civil war - the evil Southern states, the Underground Railroad with Harriet Tubman, Uncle Tom's Cabin, the economics of cotton, etc. As a college student I majored in history (a mistake because of my inability to remember names and dates) and explored all sides of the civil war causes as well as the outcomes.

NOTE: Make no mistake, SLAVERY is not good. It was a major/worst factor (among many, many factors) surrounding the civil war. My comments are based upon abhorrence of the practice of treating anyone less than "all men are created equal."


Through the course of my experiences I have realized that:
  • All Northerners and Southerners of that day held certain beliefs based upon the information and experience they had to that point in time.
  • All of us today are looking at the past through glasses that are colored by way more experiences and information than anyone has had in generations prior to us.
  • All Southerners were not slave owners. All Northerners were not slave free.
  • All Southerners that were slave owners were not bad. But, some where very bad. There were some terrible Northerners that treated slaves/non-slaves of the African-American race very poorly.
  • Many Southerns and Northerners had good intentions for their state and country based upon solid values that they gained from personal scripture study, the spirit, and their religious leaders.
  • Many Southerns AND Northerners did not have good intentions based upon their value system.
  • Many Northerners weren't wanting a Union based upon solid moral values, but rather for political and/or economic gain. Many Southerns had alternative motives than sometimes assigned to them as well.
  • Abraham Lincoln, a good man, may or may have not have understood the full impact of the "all men are created equal" until the Gettysburg Address. Question: If you were raised in that day, would you? All of us would heartily say "Of course I would treat all equally" and yet equally intelligent people back in that day did not. Why? Following the masses? Scared to admit what their heart was telling them?
My point is this: There were many people that, however mis-guided, thought that they were fighting for the right causes. There were good people fighting on both sides. There were terrible people fighting on both sides. The outcomes that should be (all men created equal, a unified country, no slavery) is painfully obvious to us today. It is awful to think of the possibilities otherwise. However, people like me back in the day made decisions that seem irrational to many of us now.


We continue to go through similar arguments today (though on perhaps slightly different issues). There are great people on both sides of the issues AND there are rotten people on both sides of issues.

I'm realizing more and more how important it is to be living right, listening to spiritual guidance from above and always ensuring that my actions are in line with "What would Jesus do?" or "Is this Heavenly Father's path for me?" or "what is truth amongst all of the voices?"

Thank goodness for a country where we can have the freedom to pursue the right to openly share our ideas and standards with others and live them!

Are there any leaders out there today that are like Ulysses S. Grant, Robert E. Lee, Stonewall Jackson? If they are, they are rare. At least they are not often in the highest leadership roles of the country. The final candidates that we had to choose from (at least from the two major political parties in the United States) were neither desirable or had the right combination of skills (REAL morals as reflected in their personal life activities, meaningful and relevant experience or signs of thought leadership). On that point, I should probably stop. (-:

But, thank goodness that good leaders sometimes fail - and fail at just the right time for history to change. Robert E. Lee and Stonewall Jackson rarely failed, but they had their biggest failures just at the time our future country needed it most. Perhaps they knew or realized they were wrong. Or, perhaps not. Perhaps God willed that certain things didn't fall into place so that His purposes could go forward.


Maybe I got off track with this post, but my little walk made me think about a few things. Gratitude for our nation, gratitude for people who took a stand (like a stone wall) and a reminder to be a strong, stalwart, and devoted person in any capacity in my life.

God Bless America! Let's get back to being more "like a stone wall."

Thursday, December 11, 2008

INTJs - dealing with them

Ok, my energy has been sucked from me this week. Too many meetings. I've had my evenings to myself and that is a good thing because I have to realize all of my thoughts somewhere and it's not out through my mouth and so it's coming out on the blog.

Anyway, every few months I re-read my personality profile. It reminds me of my strengths and of my weaknesses and what I need to work on in some areas.

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I did this re-read last night and found a page that talks about how to deal with INTJs. Fuh-ney, or not. My type is rare and it sounds like I have to constantly make sure I'm not rude.

The list is at http://fuzzy.snakeden.org/intj/ , but thought I'd copy/paste it below because it is kind of funny .... or sad depending on how you look at it. It is strangely accurate in some ways and a little off in other.

Here they are and if you go to the link you can find out your own things to know.
1 - Be willing to back up your statements with facts - or at least some pretty sound reasoning.
Don't expect them to respect you or your viewpoints just because you say so. INTJ respect must be earned.
2 - Be willing to concede when you are wrong. The average INTJ respects the truth over being "right". Withdraw your erroneous comment and admit your mistake and they will see you as a very reasonable person. Stick to erroneous comments and they will think you are an irrational idiot and treat everything you say as being questionable.
3 - Try not to be repetitive. It annoys them.
4 - Do not feed them a line of bull.
5 - Expect debate. INTJs like to tear ideas apart and prove their worthiness. They will even argue a point they don't actually support for the sake of argument.
6 - Do not mistake the strength of your conviction with the strength of your argument. INTJs do not need to believe in a position to argue it or argue it well. Therefore, it will take more than fervor to sway them.
7 - Do not be surprised at sarcasm.
8 - Remember that INTJs believe in workable solutions. They are extremely open-minded to possibilities, but they will quickly discard any idea that is unfeasible. INTJ open-mindedness means that they are willing to have a go at an idea by trying to pull it apart. This horrifies people who expect oohs and ahhs and reverence. The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea is to ignore it, because that means it's not even interesting enough to deconstruct. This also means that they will not just accept any viewpoint that is presented to them. The bottom line is "Does it work?" - end discussion.
9 - Do not expect INTJs to actually care about how you view them. They already know that they are arrogant with a morbid sense of humor. Telling them the obvious accomplishes nothing.

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