Showing posts with label excellence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label excellence. Show all posts

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Little Thoughts - leadership, excellence, talents and keeping up with whomever

Today at church we had a great lesson. The instructor didn't actually teach it, but the value of her lesson came by the people she involved in the discussion. She identified five women beforehand that had an impact in her life in some way. She asked each of these women to talk about one of their talents and center it around three questions:
  • when they discovered it
  • how they developed it, and
  • how they use it to bless others.
I was surprised at some of the talents they shared since I don't know some of them that well and didn't suspect some of their talents by looking at them. I will admit to having a moment where I wish that I had a chance to develop more talents and share them. You know - that moment where you kind of wish someone knew you could do something? But, then you think about it and wonder "am I really that good at any one thing?"

But, I changed my thoughts mid-thought. Really, I want to focus on finding out others talents right now. There is a certain happiness in it and I don't feel so selfish in the process.

On another note - leadership positions.

When I was a teenager I was in a lot of leadership positions at church. As I went off to college, I continued to hold leadership positions at church and continued to do so into my early 30s. I never thought anything of it.

However, in my early 30s, I started taking on more leadership responsibilities at work and saw a change in the responsibilities I had at church. Instead of being in RS, YW and Primary presidencies, I'd be asked to play the piano, teach primary, family history consultant (now), and primary chorister.

Nothing wrong with it because I've grown in specific areas.

But, I don't get exposed to some of the great leadership trainings I used to be a part of, and don't meet and work with some of the leaders that I'd get to collaborate with in the past.

Today someone announced how they'd been able to meet up with a church leader yesterday by mere fact that they were in a certain leadership position at this particular time. A little part of my heart, I admit, was a little jealous.

Am I not spending my time on the right things in life? Am I not intended to help lead anything at church anymore?

Hmmmm. Deep thoughts.

And, I know the answer.

The last couple of years I have learned about "the one." Instead of being able to lead the masses (small though the masses may be), I'm learning how to silently help the one and ...stick with that one for a very long time. It is difficult for me, whereas someone else may come by it naturally.

Which brings me to comparing...

Why do we feel the need to compare ourselves to others? In some ways, I guess, it is important to compare. It helps us gage where we are at and where we could be. But, in other ways it is dangerous. I live in an area where the people around me live in homes that are all over $600,000 and ...most likely have other homes in other places that are even nicer. They do well. They do not have a need for certain things. And, they are successful with their families, talents, and work.

This can be overwhelming when I compare (as I did for a minute tonight), but this minute shall pass...

I am reminded of a quest I had years ago to learn about excellence - about being excellent, about striving for excellence and about instilling it in others.

I need to return to that quest now that my life is starting to fall into place in different areas.

It isn't where we are, but were we are going. And, as my Dad says "and what direction you are pointing."

Today, I am going to do an about face and focus on making me better and helping others improve their lives. I have a feeling that all the others worries will fall into place or ....drop out of my life. Yes, I'm copying that comment from President Ezra T. Benson.

Anyway, here's to the ability to change, to improve and to repent upon the past.

Perhaps I'll discover and develop a new talent along the way...

Sunday, December 19, 2010

C.S. Lewis - interesting article

If you are a C.S. Lewis fan, take a few minutes to read this article. It is at http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2010/12/17/surprised-by-c-s-lewis-why-his-popularity-endures/ , but some of these newspapers disable links to unpaying/unlogged in members a few weeks after posting. So, figured that I'd copy/paste below.

What I get from this is the importance of each of us just plugging away doing those things that are good throughout our lives ... and to do them well. Our influence goes beyond our immediate surroundings and well beyond our life on earth. But, not to worry about it and just do what is right. You may have other thoughts.

Enjoy!
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Surprised by C.S. Lewis: Why his popularity endures - 12/17/2010


By John Blake, CNN

C.S. Lewis was talking to his lawyer one day when the attorney told him he had to decide where his earnings would go after his death.

Lewis, who had already written “The Chronicles of Narnia” book series, told the lawyer he didn’t need to worry.

“After I’ve been dead five years, no one will read anything I’ve written,” Lewis said.

Lewis was a gifted writer, but he would have been a lousy estate planner. More than 40 years after his death, the former medieval literature professor has become the Elvis Presley of Christian publishing: His legacy is lucrative and still growing, scholars and book editors say.

The third film adaptation of Lewis’ "Narnia" series, “The Voyage of the Dawn Treader,” was released in theaters worldwide this month. HarperOne publishers also just released “The C.S. Lewis Bible,” a book pairing 600 selections of Lewis’ writings with matching scriptural passages.

Lewis’ books remain strong sellers. His “Mere Christianity” has been on the BookScan Religion Bestseller’s list a record 513 weeks since the list started in 2001. At least 430,000 copies of Lewis’ books have been sold this year alone, HarperOne officials said.

Lewis’ contemporary appeal may strike some as odd at first because he seemed so firmly planted in the past. A scholar at the University of Oxford in England, he wore shabby tweed jackets, smoked a pipe in the pub and was wounded in the trenches of World War I.

But Lewis’ popularity endures because of several reasons: his distinctive writing style, a tragic love affair and a shrewd choice he made early in his career, Lewis scholars say.

Lyle Dorsett, author of “Seeking the Secret Place: The Spiritual Formation of C. S. Lewis,” says Lewis was fearless.

“He didn’t dodge the tough questions,” says Dorsett, who told the story of Lewis’ conversation with his lawyer in “Seeking the Secret Place.” “People find that refreshing.”

Lewis’ shrewd early career move

Lewis is labeled a Christian writer, but he also wrote essays, children’s fiction, literary criticism and science fiction. He even hosted a popular BBC radio show during World War II.

Some scholars say Lewis’ BBC experience, where he had to make points quickly, honed his writing style. Lewis learned how to systematically explain Christianity in clear and catchy language, devoid of religious jargon.

Philip Yancey, an evangelical author, says Lewis developed this gift because he came to Christianity as an outsider. He was an atheist.

“Coming to faith as an atheist, he had an understanding of and sympathy for people who look at faith wistfully but can’t swallow it,” says Yancey, who writes about Lewis in his latest book, “What Good is God.”

Lewis remains popular because his books don’t seem dated, says Mickey Maudlin, HarperOne's project editor for "The C.S. Lewis Bible."

Lewis didn’t write about the doctrinal squabbles dividing Christian groups of his time, Maudlin says.

“He made a strategic decision early in his career to talk about ‘Mere Christianity,’ ’’ Maudlin says. “He never writes about different modes of baptism, different views of communion or anything that separates one church from another.”

The result: Lewis has a big following today among Evangelicals, Roman Catholics, Mormons - even skeptics, Maudlin says.

“C.S. Lewis wasn’t trapped by tribal thinking,” Maudlin says. “He was able to speak to everybody. He felt called by God to be an explainer of the big issues.”

How 'good infection’ converted Lewis

Though Lewis looked like the prototype of the mid-20th century English professor, he was actually an Irishman. He was born as Clive Staples Lewis in 1898 in Belfast. Friends and family called him “Jack.”

Scholars cite two events as the source for Lewis’ early atheism. His mother, Florence, died of cancer when Lewis was 9. And his best friend, Paddy, was killed during World War I. Most of the men in Lewis’ platoon didn’t survive the trenches.

“When he saw the carnage of World War I, he concluded that if God exists, He is a cosmic sadist,” says Dorsett, Lewis’ biographer.

Lewis' conversion to Christianity was gradual. It was prompted by what he later called “good infection” - being drawn to faith unawares through the friends he made and books he read.

One of those friends was J.R.R. Tolkien, a fellow English professor at Oxford best known today as the author of “The Lord of the Rings.”

According to some accounts, Tolkien, a Christian intellectual, helped convert Lewis. He showed Lewis that many of the mythological books he loved to read were Christian allegories.

Lewis, though, would later add that there was something more subtle that led to his conversion.

He called it “joy.”

“Joy” was Lewis' term for a stab of longing that unexpectedly welled up in him during moments of contemplation, such as listening to opera or reading an ancient Norse tale.

In his book, “The Weight of Glory,” Lewis wrote that the yearning he experienced during those moments convinced him there was another existence beyond this world.

“For they are not the thing itself; they are only the scent of a love we have not found, the echo of a tune we have not heard, news from a country we have never visited.”

Lewis’ painful love affair

Lewis could be poetic, but he could also be brutally honest. He demonstrated this in his most searing book, “A Grief Observed.”

In the book, Lewis writes about falling in love - and losing that love. Lewis was a bachelor who lived with his older brother Warnie for much of his life. Then he met Joy Davidman Gresham, a Jewish American writer who was 15 years his junior.

Dorsett says Lewis was both physically and intellectually smitten with Gresham. He says they used to play Scrabble together, using Hebrew, Greek, Latin and German words to fill in the blanks.

“She had a sharp wit and he loved it,” Dorsett says. “She loved to debate and challenge him. They were always having an intellectual tennis match.”

Lewis’ relationship with Gresham would also challenge his faith.

Lewis married Gresham when he was 58. Soon, however, she developed bone cancer. She experienced what seemed to be a miraculous recovery only to fall ill again. Four years after marrying Lewis, she was dead.

Lewis was devastated. He began to question his belief in God:

“Go to Him when your need is desperate, when all other help is vain, and what do you find? A door slammed in your face and a sound of bolting,” he wrote in “A Grief Observed.”

“A Grief Observed” inspired the film, “Shadowlands,” starring Anthony Hopkins and Debra Winger. One of the most moving scenes in the film took place when Lewis’ character embraced Gresham’s grieving son, Douglas, and they both wept unabashedly together.



Douglas Gresham at the premier of the latest 'Narnia' film in London.Douglas Gresham is now 65 with a bristly white beard and a booming baritone. He still holds tightly to his memories of Lewis.

Gresham says there’s one part of Lewis’ personality that movies and scholars often get wrong. Many people think Lewis was a dour Englishman.

“He was full of fun,” Gresham says. “He was always surrounded by people who liked to laugh and drink pints of beer. You could always tell if Jack was in the house. You would hear roars of laughter.”

He was also humble, Gresham says. Lewis spent hours each day answering letters from his admirers.

“Jack was someone who believed that if someone would write him, then the least he could do was give a reply,” Gresham says. “Sometimes people would just show up at the door, and he would never turn them away.”

What would Lewis think of his fame?

Gresham says commentators also often miss the mark on Lewis' friendship with Tolkien.

Lewis and Tolkien were both members of the Inklings, an informal literary group at Oxford that met to swap stories and ale.

In “Shadowlands,” Joy Gresham is portrayed as a party crasher who alienated a stuffy Tolkien. Some scholars have suggested that Lewis and Tolkien’s friendship suffered because of Lewis’ marriage to Gresham.

“Tolkien was a devout Catholic,” says Dorsett, Lewis’ biographer. "He found her quite abrasive.”

Gresham, though, snorts at the suggestion that his mother damaged Lewis’ friendship with Tolkien.

“It never happened,” he says.

Gresham says that when he went to visit Lewis in the hospital during his last days, he saw Tolkien. Tolkien told him he could live with him if anything happened to Lewis, Gresham says.

“Now you don’t do that for someone you’re not fond of,” Gresham says. “He was Jack’s best friend when he died.”

Lewis died at 64 of kidney failure on November 22, 1963, the same day President Kennedy was assassinated. His death was overshadowed by coverage of Kennedy’s death as well as the death of Aldous Huxley, another famous author who died that day.

Lewis, however, grabs his share of headlines today.

Gresham, a retired physiotherapist, spends much of his time talking about Lewis. He’s a producer for the latest "Narnia" film, answers letters from Lewis' fans and has written a biography called “Lenten Lands: My Childhood with Joy Davidman and C.S. Lewis.”

He says he doesn’t get tired of talking about the man some still call “Jack.”

“It gives me great pleasure to introduce him to people who haven’t met him yet,” he says. “I’m an unashamed C.S. Lewis fan.”

And what about Lewis? What would he think of the movie franchise he’s spawned and the Christian icon he’s become?

“I think he’d be embarrassed,” Gresham says quickly. “The thought that he would be idolized by so many people would embarrass him deeply.”

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Leadership and lack thereof

Some thoughts I emailed to myself last week that I figured I'd post to my blog.

On Tue, Oct 7, 2008 at 12:16 PM, wrote:

With the upcoming election I've been doing a lot of thinking about leadership. Many of the candidates go out of their way to sound down to earth like the gal/guy next store. Apparently, this is what we Americans want - someone just like us. Or is it?

Does misery love company? Do we despise those that are more successful than ourselves? Do we want to relate on every level to those that lead us? That lead the world?

I'm not so sure I want a leader just like me. In fact, I know I don't.

I eat too much, don't sweep the floor ever, get anxiety attacks over little things, ignore phone calls, spend too much money, neglect to do my hair on most days and often blow people off that I perceive as a waste of my time. I'm also addicted to cookies and milk.

I have no intentions of running for the job as president of the United States. I know how hard it is to navigate politics in the federal government. I speak from very personal and first hand experience. I have no desire to be a part of it. It turns smart people into drones or into highly ticked off people that the drones perceive as irrational. Either way, through my experiences I'm smart enough to know that I'm not qualified for the job as president and that the job is a lot different than the news media portrays. Kind of like the court system - it has nothing to do with morals or principles. It's pure politics, relationships and precedent. One must be a person that is capable of maneuvering these waters.

We need a leader. Leaders should be different than the following crowd. In my opinion, which I am allowed to state in my personal blog, I think leaders should be far more successful than the common person. They should be superior in all aspects that they have control over (height, race, gender and attractiveness don't count) as a result of their efforts to become a person.

I expect them to have more homes than me and more in their bank account. I expect them to have earned it in honest ways or successfully held on to family wealth and increase it (parable of the talents). I want them to have a better grasp of history than myself. They need to have a strategic outlook on the world and be open to advice from smart people that are expert in stock market analysis, banking, agriculture, terrorism, and customer relationship management. I want them to be able to operate on the world stage amongst different cultures and people that think completely differently than we do about human rights and decency. As a leader, I expect them to make decisions based upon advice from trusted and smart people, but know when to follow their gut...and when their gut isn't telling them the right information.

I want a leader that has experienced hardship and pain, but also knows extremely success. Some of this knowledge can be vicarious and other through personal experience. I want someone that can put first things first and is an exemplary standard of doing so. The same person that can keep first things first also seems to know when to make changes to the second, third and fourth priorities. After all, those are up to a little more interpretation than whatever is first.


There are so many mediocre people in the world - at work, in politics, on the news, on MTV and walking around town. Some don't want to be mediocre deep down, but become so through constant exposure to mediocrity. By mere fact we live on planet earth, we can't really get away from our exposure to the junk, but we can limit our access. It is easy to fall into the trap of complacency and mediocrity.

On the flip side, don't we all know someone that we truly look up to? Someone that always seems to be trustworthy, wise, empathetic, and consistent. A person that is an example of "excellence." These are those people that we proudly follow and want to represent us in difficult situations or when the tough choice has to be made. They remain calm and respectable despite the challenges, and they "rally the troops" when the troops are down (troops in the broad sense - child, team, congregation, class, organization, etc.). We somehow believe and trust them because they have mastered areas of their lives and brains that the rest of us haven't quite conquered.

These people do exist. We don't happen to have anyone that fits this particular leadership type running for president or vice-president right now. In that case, we still can pick the one that will surround themselves with the best team to accomplish this task. I'm not sure who that is right now and I may not decide until I go in to vote.

Either way, I can strive to be a standard of excellence in my personal life. I can be a leader in my own little bubble of world. After all, that is really the only place to make a true difference. For all we know, the vote is already rigged (call me a conspiracy theorist if you'd like, but I have seen the beltway politics at work for a while and it would be no surprise to hear this happened...the information will probably be unclassified twenty years from now).

And this, my friends, is as close as I will get to a political rant. Believe me, I am doing more ranting offline and I love the Tina Fey impersonations.


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