Friday, February 6, 2009

I'm sorry

These are the words I've had to say a few times this week.

I'm sorry.

Sigh.

Sometimes everything in my head just comes out of my head wrong. On the one hand, I feel like I've been more than helpful and accommodating to certain people that drive me crazy in my life. On the other hand...there are people that might not be in the right frame of mind to handle some of my direct and factual comments.

So, if I've done this to you I am sorry.

I'll share just one because it is amusing ...in a way.

We had a meeting at work this week to discuss gaming and simulation implementation into our current product development efforts. There is a new person from who knows where that will be working on some projects. We were going through a list of simulations we are going to purchase and one was about "emotional intelligence." The guy kind of laughed it off like it was some random thing while asking what it was. I quipped that "emotional intelligence is a major topic in most business corporations today" and did it in a way that was a little flippant. Yikes. He kind of shut up a bit after that.

If you don't know what emotional intelligence is...I demonstrated what it was not. Do a google search to find the info, but it is the soft skills as well as business savvy that can make or break you as a boss, co-worker or CEO.

He pretty much got an "I'm sorry" email today because I do have emotional intelligence. It just happens to be of the delayed kind.

Despite what an old co-worker used to say (never say you are sorry because you will never make it to management), I have found that the higher I move up in responsibility the more important it is to say it.

And on that note I will end...to stifle any more words that will get me in trouble.

2 comments:

gollyjess said...

we are having a boy. Abrams ? Clark. Sometimes I get a little tired of people making announcements about things going on in their lives as if other people really care. Or in the case of one girl, pretty much soft-guilting someone into throwing her a baby shower. So, I am just going to leave it to people that care to find out instead of broadcast. I guess I don;t understand people who go around broadcasting. Anyway, I don't know why I am on a harp right now, I think the little man not eating his breakfast and then demanding chips and candy is bothering me. Sorry. (Perhaps I can move up to higher management now! please?!) Hope you have a good day. Can't wait for you to meet the next little one Aunt Beccs.

Anonymous said...

Being able to say "I'm sorry" makes you a class act. Forgive me for commenting on your blog when you don't even know me--I am Patti's friend and also happen to be named Rebecca. I thoroughly enjoy your perspective and your way of putting it into words.

You are probably familiar with the book Leadership and Self-Deception by The Arbinger Institute. The principles contained therein are much more emotionally intelligent than those that discourage apologies.

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