Have you noticed that when someone gets married everyone talks about being a princess?
You know, like these kinds of comments:
"Splurge, it is your day to be a princess."
"You deserve it, you are a princess."
"You are a princess and should be able to have whatever you've dreamed of having on your special day."
For some reason, I always wince at these comments. I didn't know why until recently. But, think I figured it out.
I am not a princess. I never have been and never want to be.
Why?
Well, here's my opinion. And, it is only MY opinion because you may have a completely different take and that is fine with me.
Perhaps it is media (tv, movies) and books, but I look at the role of a princess much different than the role that I've played in life and plan to play in the future.
A princess (again, my opinion) may be beautiful, kind and gracious, but at the same time seems to be dependent upon those around her to make decisions, provide material possessions, set up relationships, respond to her every need, etc. The princess never seems to be in charge or standing on her own two feet, at least not necessarily in positive ways.
See, my opinion may be a bit based upon the fairy tale princess persona.
But, even so, that isn't what I am or who I want to be.
Instead, I think it would be better to be queen. A queen can be beautiful, gracious, kind and good like a princess. But, a queen knows who she is and makes decisions. A queen has responsibilities and is responsible for consequences. A queen seems more solid as a person. A queen must be equally powerful in the presence of her spouse as she is on her own in matters of judgement, choice, and accountability.
There have to be both in the world.
I want to be queen.
4 comments:
love it! Queen it is!
I love this post. I never wanted to be a princess, and I was 19 when I got married! Maybe it is just those of us who grew up with the old Disney movies.
Maybe the reason this attitude bugs me is that people use it as an excuse to be belligerent about getting their way.
Thanks for sharing! I wasn't sure whether to post because for some - princess is all good. Just not for me.
Now...time to fix the formatting on the post. I had no idea it would look so off sending it from my email. (-:
I'm with you Rebecca! I have never really understood the obsession girls have with princesses...and I have a little 5-year old that loves everything princess...I didn't grow up watching Disney princess movies and I was always puzzled when roommates would say that they wanted a "princess dress" for their wedding and they wanted to feel like "a princess". It may be the realist in me, that just doesn't allow me to enjoy the thought of "being a princess". I think you put it in such a way that may be now I can explain why I think that a princess is not what I want to be. I rather be queen just like you!:)
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